Ah, that’s an old trick up there in the title - Grab the readers’, no, not what you are thinking old boy. Grab the readers’ attention with the promise of a little controversy and then let them down. Blame it on my advertising past where grabbing readers by the balls of their eyes is a highly prized skill and letting them down is standard practice.
The client thumps the table and declares, “Give us ads that get maximum eye balls!”
The agency thumps its chest and declares, “Yes sir!” and mutters to itself at the same time, ‘For that you need to have balls!’
So, if the title has had you rubbing your, no, not that again ol’ girl, rubbing your hands in anticipation of bio-theo-psycho-socio-logical insights into the great man-woman phenomenon, go away! Visit a library!
Now that we have gotten rid of cheap thrill-seeking and serious debate-seeking readers, time to get down to the business of this piece:
We are going to take women in social situations (you still here? Go away, there is no pun on ‘take’), and compare them with men.
As always, this piece is not original; it is based on a few observations and that’s it. I am sure similar observations have been made by teams of psycho/sociologists funded by universities with impressive seals and mottos in Latin that mean, ‘Making nonsense credible since 1582,’ and, depending on the source of funding, who publish papers that give scientific reasons why coffee is good or bad for you.
So here are some non-funded, non-original observations.
1. A woman walks into a room:
All men check her out, most of them surreptiously.
All women check her out openly.
Men don't notice what she is wearing. In fact the gifted ones try to imagine her without what she is wearing while the others try putting her face on certain pictures or videos they have seen on the net.
Women make a note of everything - from toe nail colour to hair colour - and try to figure out if they are original, fake or bought in a sale.
Getting no look in return, men go back to doing what they were doing.
Women decide that what she is wearing will look better on them and add a few things to their shopping list and also visit the parlour while they are at it.
1A. A man walks into a room:
Big deal. Shit happens. Or rather, nothing happens. Unless he has MONEY written all over his forehead. Or if there is a woman with him. Then we are back to situation one.
2. A woman gets up, says ‘bye’ to her group of women friends and leaves the room.
The women left behind do not continue their conversation. They wait until she is out of earshot. Then they start talking, about her.
“Did you notice? She has worn the same dress the last time we met!”
“She shouldn’t be wearing such dresses at all – makes her look fatter!”
“Hasn’t she been going to the gym for over two months now?”
“If I had a personal trainer like hers, I would go too!”
“What world do you live in?”
2A. A man gets up, says ‘bye’ to his group of men friends and leaves the room.
He has barely left the table when the men start talking.
“He doesn’t show it, but he lost quite bit on the market last week.”
“Dude, it’s the time to sell. Now! I made quite a packet yesterday.”
“What are you saying? Do you think I should too?”
“Damn! Watch the football guys – he just missed the goal by a whisker!”
Sorry, have to stop writing now. I have to channel my imagination elsewhere. A woman just walked into the room.